So it’s been an interesting month diving into the online dating world. I’m on Coffee meets Bagel, Tinder and Bumble and let me tell you, there are a lot of weird men on these apps. Do they actually score matches and dates?!
So if you’re new to the world of online dating, here’s a blurb on how these apps work, before I share some of these weird men I’ve come across.
Coffee meets bagel
- There’s an in app currency, very fittingly they’re coffee beans. In the first week of signing up on the app, you get rewarded with beans for logging in. You may earn additional beans for rating members’ profile pictures.
- Spending these beans allows you to access more profiles (and potentially make more connections – where you can start chatting), you may also buy more beans or even subscribe to their “premium” service.
- Their premium service gives you access to an activity report, see when messages are read and 6000 beans per month.
- Each day at noon, you get delivered up to 5 profiles of men who have ‘liked’ your profile – there’s a orange banner across these profiles with: “He likes you! ♥️” so you can’t miss it. If you like any of these guys, you can ‘like’ them too, a connection is made and you can start chatting with them.
- From these profiles, you can browse their photos and profile which includes details such as age, location, ethnicity, height, religion, occupation, employer and education. There’ll also be a few details that the guy should have filled out “I am…(e.g. well travelled, love pets etc)”, “I like… (e.g. random road trips, hikes, Netflix etc)” and “I appreciate when my date… (is spontaneous etc).
- I say should have, because some guys are just plain lazy and just put in N/A, N/A, N/A. Greaaaat.
- Sometimes there’ll be additional profiles to these 5 that pop up in the “discover” tab. I’m not sure exactly why they they appear – but I suspect, it’s because these guys have spent beans to ‘take’ your profile in the discover section – in hopes that you like them too and a connection can be made to start chatting.
Overall feelings:
- Probably the least intimidating and overwhelming of the 3 apps – because you’re served a curated and small selection of profiles each day.
- The whole concept is kinda cute and definitely takes away the mindless swipe left/right culture of Tinder and Bumble.
- The chat automatically closes in 7 days, so if the chat fizzles out it’ll die out naturally. It also has a sense of urgency, that if you do like chatting with one another, there’s incentive to swap numbers and keep chatting off the app.
Bumble
- Founded by an ex-girlfriend of a Tinder founder, she sought to “give the power back to women.” If you match with a guy, the woman has to start the conversation within 24 hours. If she doesn’t, the match disappears. Guys have the option to ‘extend the line for 24 hours’ in hopes the lady will kick off the chat, if she doesn’t:
- Like Tinder, this app is swipe left for no and swipe right for yes. There’s recently a new feature called ‘super like’. I haven’t yet used this function, so don’t fully know what happens after you’ve super liked someone. If you both swipe yes, a chat opens up.
- Swipe up to check out the guy’s photos and at the end of the photos, you’ll see the guy’s employer, education, location and a blurb they might include about themselves.
- Bumble has a “beeline” subscription service that allows you to see who has already swiped right on you.
Overall feelings:
- The men on this app are ridiculously good looking?! Like the majority of them, what gives? Are they even real people or fake profiles?
- The original(?) dating app – swipe left for no, swipe right for yes. If you tap on their photo, it\’ll open up their profile, showing their employer, education, how far away they are and a short (or non existent blurb they wrote). If you both swipe yes, a chat opens up.
- It’ll also show you their Instagram account (if they connected it) and mutual Facebook friends.
- You can get ‘Tinder plus’ which is their paid subscription. It gives you the power to swipe back (in case you got too left swipe happy), change your location and match all around the world, unlimited likes (in case you feel right swipe happy), get 1 free boost/month (you’re shown as a top profile in your area for 30 mins), send more super likes and turn off ads.
- You can also recommend profiles to other people and play match maker!
Overall feelings:
- A lot of people unfairly categorise Tinder as a ‘hook up app’, but it’s not necessarily built for that purpose. Only if people USING the app, use it that way, then yes. I’ve actually managed to find some friendship material guys on this app.
- By far the most guys ghosting on this app.
- If men are looking for hook ups, they make it very overt and kind of hilarious.
Happy online dating!
